By holding a grudge you feel as though we are punishing the person we are angry with. But in truth you are punishing yourself, for holding a grudge consumes you emotionally. Rather than quietly sieving and plotting revenge (as did Absalom and Jacobs sons) you should use you’re energy to give those who have hurt you an opportunity to make amends.
Rabbi Steven Saks
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